Do you feel guilty when you say “no”? Do you spend more time taking caring of others than taking care of yourself? Are you becoming exhausted and resentful about this? Does your happiness depend on the mood and behaviors of those around you? Would you like to learn how to get your own needs met? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you might be codependent. Recovering from codependency is a powerful and beautiful journey of self-acceptance and love that will transform your life and bring you the joy and happiness you deserve.
Codependency is a disease of relationships. The “dependent” in codependent relationships is the needy party. He/she is often an alcoholic or addict. The “codependent” party tries to control the dependent’s behavior, makes excuses for the dependent, tries to be perfect, and tries to solve others’ problems for them. These maladaptive behaviors are often learned as a way to survive in the codependent’s family of origin that might have been dysfunctional because of: alcoholism and/or other addictions; sexual or other abuse; chronic illness; or external hardships such as living in poverty, or a war zone.
Symptoms of codependence:
- Excessive caretaking
- Controlling behavior
- Excessive worry
- Avoidance of feelings
- See self-care as selfish
- Attracting needy people
- Rescuing others from their mistakes
- Lack of boundaries
- Guilt and self-blame
- Lack of self-esteem
Pathfinders counselors can help you recover from codependency. By learning how to set healthy boundaries, take care of yourself, and discover who YOU are, you can bring balance into your life and learn to thrive.
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