Why are transitions so challenging? Even when a transition is positive, it is often very difficult. For example, I recently resigned from a very stressful job. I had to resign as the work (and being on-call) was negatively impacting my physical and mental health. Being a therapist, I thought I had considered and “worked through” my issues around this tough decision. Boy, was I mistaken!
Transitions (even good ones) come with grief and loss. I am grieving the camaraderie and shared experience I received from my co-workers, the weekly support group, and being part of a wonderful team. I am feeling isolated. I am grieving the losses that have come from moving on.
Fortunately, I have the tools to move through this transition in a healthy way. I will take time to practice gratitude. Having time to focus on my health, my family, and my private practice is a gift. I will be gentle with myself. I will practice mindfulness and try to enjoy each moment fully. I will connect with my extensive network of friends and re-enter some meaningful volunteer work in the community to fill some of the now empty hours in my days. I will nurture myself and remember that in time I will find a new homeostasis. I will find the balance I was not able to find while working as an on-call, in-home, family therapist. I will set my own schedule and be my own boss. I will enjoy the summer months and connect with friends I have neglected because my work kept me too busy, and left me exhausted.
Yes, transitions are challenging. However, with time, therapeutic tools, and support from family and friends I will look back and know that I made the best decision for me. I already feel lighter for writing this blog – reminding me that journaling is another effective way to process those confusing feelings.
“Transitions themselves are not the issue, but how well you respond to their challenges!” – Jim George
If you are struggling to adjust to a transition in your life, counseling can help. Schedule a free 30 minute consultation today and find out how sharing your struggles with an empathic and skilled therapist can help you move through more smoothly and set you up to navigate future hiccups with greater ease.